There will be many who don’t see eye-to-eye with me. Some of you may not agree with my opinions and take on certain matters. But either way, I hope to touch a chord, nerve, or realization somewhere. Please read carefully and ponder.
These haters to the left, my, there seem to be quite a lot I’m hoping, on this side…. Let’s unite!
Let’s ask ourselves this question, WHAT SHOULD WE BE HATING?
Isn’t it obvious? SNSD, right?
But what is it that we should hate about SNSD?
Over the past few months, KPop fans alike including myself have gone through a lot of confusing moments, especially with last year’s lawsuits, and issues with 2PM that are still continuing on into this year of 2010.
My opinions over many things regarding the fandoms have changed.
I am writing this as a last remnant of my concerns with the fandoms that I have kept for I feel, far too long. After I write this, I am going on an official hiatus from all things KPop, which also means, I am on a hiatus from STAND.
Things have been changing and I feel like the purpose of this forum and community is slipping away. I want to leave this message as a hopes that it might rejuvenate purpose and also open up an outlook that I feel strongly about.
I simply cannot tolerate the behavior and thoughts of the KPop fandoms any longer. When I first got involved in them, it was fun and refreshing. I got in to KPop for the music and some part of me will still remain for that aspect. It’s just the idol groups who are the main face of the KPop scene that are causing me to leave. And the mindsets of the fans.
I feel like the appreciation for KPop is becoming shallow and already gone through multiple train wrecks. I am giving up trying to put in any form of influence to steer the rabid, misguided fans towards what I believe is what really matters.
Besides all the cheap auto-tune junk being churned out by song producers (I’m really REALLY disappointed by this, because it was the compositions that really impressed me and drew me into KPop in the first place) these days,
I feel like the fans are more concerned about images now rather than the music itself. So much that even their idols are losing focus of what they should be marketing.
I still despise SNSD with all my heart.
But what has changed is,
I despise them as a group. Their rabid, and often overly-aggressive )actually, overly-defensive too) fans can’t seem to comprehend that when they say “What have they ever done to you? They’re nice girls,” doesn’t affect my stance in this at all.
Why? Because when I say I despise their group, I despise their purpose.
I have no problems with them as individuals. I don’t care whether or not they may be sweet and loving girls in reality, or they may be horrible rude, b*tches.
The only times I dislike them as individuals is for a select few members who show an utter lack of professionalism that I cannot abide, as a performer myself. Sometimes I feel like a few of the SNSD girls aren’t serious about music at all and are just in the industry for the attention it gives them. That is something I resent greatly. And therefore, I cannot give those individuals respect.
But I hate them as a group. I hate the reasons for the creation of their group and why they exist in the first place.
First off, I don’t appreciate a group that’s supposed to represent Asian females of “my generation” with a priority of serving the perverted, sexual desires of men.
SNSD does NOT represent our generation of Asian females. It represents the foul part of our society where men exert dominance over women and expect us to be submissive objects for their own benefit. It represents what they WANT us to be, and not who we really ARE.
Perverted ahjusshis in SME were the ones who created this group to represent this. And I choose to hate the representation, as a feminist.
And as an Asian-American, I live in a country where women are a lot more free in their choices. I am proud to have freedom of speech, and that marriage is an alternative, and not a solidified future. I’m glad to know that I don’t need to have a man or be desired by men to be full of worth.
But I feel concern for the women back in Asia. Do you know that there are only 2-3 women who hold high positions in the economic industry in South Korea? Do you know that for every dollar a man earns, a woman earns only 46 cents?
Do you know that there are girls who are chided and humiliated and are told that they are worthless for not having husbands?
And I have a cousin back in Asia, who has a phD in computer programming. After she married into her husband’s family, she is now a housewife and has not worked since. Her husband is inheriting the family business – a noodle-making factory.
I’m getting carried away here. Just putting some points across to show where my feelings are.
Here’s something to think about and why the existence of SNSD as a heavily-advertised group is dangerous for our society.
When I’m called a “hater” for disliking SNSD, there is always an attack overly used by the defenders;
“You’re probably jealous because you will never be as pretty as them,”
“You must be ugly”
“They have guys who love them and that’s something you can’t have. Is that why you’re so angry?”
Just as anti-feminists play upon the “ugly” word, so do SNSD fans. It sounds petty, but “ugly” is a powerful weapon.
Now I have full confidence about myself. I’m not particularly concerned about my physical appearance, but when I am, it’s because I like to think that self-grooming is a form of self-respect.
But the concept of SNSD teaches, as a “representative of Asian females of this generation”, a message of “This is what you need to be like for men,”
I feel pity for SNSD in that they are being used as billboards for the ahjusshi population and for SME to promote how they want girls to be. And on the girls part who buy into this unknowingly, if you don’t match that image portrayed by SNSD, you are worthless.
Worthless for men that is. Isn’t that what it all boils down to? That we end up comparing ourselves and starving ourselves because we’re only worth something when it attracts a man?
Because apparently, that’s why we exist huh…..
Are you getting angry as you read this? Yes you should be.
The fact that appearances are the main concerns of the SNSD fans show just what kind of sentiments are being bred by the marketing tactics of the band. It’s shallow, and is a step hurtling backwards for female empowerment of Asian women.
We Asian women are terribly behind. And it is this constant teaching of submissiveness and portrayal of the ideal Asian women as drawn up and presented to us like a guideline and request sheet by men that is keeping us back. We need to see past all this and seize our places in high positions that we DO have the ability to achieve!
We should not groom ourselves to become accessories for men to display. To become objects that will make the man look successful. We live in a new era of thought and century.
Now I sound like I’m generalize all men. I know there are male feminists out there who believe in female equality too. And I am thankful for those men who have respect for women and don’t see them as accessories.
If there are any men out there who are reading this and can feel my frustration as a female, please pay heed to the message I am trying to give. You can help improve our society and cultures. Even the Western world looks down on us sometimes because our women are seen as weak and submissive. No wonder so many foreigners like to go to Asia for sex trips.
Back to SNSD (it’s easy to get carried away with all the other side topics I’m concerned with as a feminist),
These days, I’m staring to see a little awakening in the mindset of the fandoms, who are starting to recognize, and get sick of the image that SNSD market. I can feel the resentment towards that image, and many fans are starting to step up bravely to address that as girls, they do NOT want to be portrayed the way SNSD are.
But at the same time, it’s unnerving to see how so many quickly dismiss it, saying “it’s what all the girl bands do. Nothing new. They’re just catering to popular demand,”
THAT’S what is worrying. That it’s what all the girl bands do, and it’s acceptable. Sure, people are starting to realize the hypocrisy and the damage it means for us, but to blatantly disregard it is terrifying. My only hope is that more and more people will become brave enough and step up and address it, and condemn a part of our society that needs to be amended.
Because, it is NOT okay for this to keep happening. There are girls who are tired of being marketed like SNSD. There are girls who are seeking real role models, and not role models set for us by the desires of perverts for what they want to tote around and display.
Pop culture is frighteningly influential. Have you read the lyrics for the SNSD songs? What baffles me even more is how so many can overlook the completely obvious innuendos and images presented by SNSD’s music videos even when they’re right in your face.
They put themes of submissiveness, like “Tell Me Your Wish”, and the concept of being a genie to grant every man’s desire under the guise of catchy tunes and dances and attractive looks. They have found a way in the music industry to work this to their benefit, and blind so many.
Wake up, everyone! Look behind the addictive melodies and images! We need to dig out the message, throw it in front of everyone, and condemn it. STAND UP, PEOPLE!
This is a moral issue. And throughout history it’s been proven that moral issues tend to just scare people off. Nobody wants to attack that sort of problem when it comes to our conscience. But that’s the most important thing, and the most difficult. It’s the thing that needs to be faced honestly, and we can’t keep running away from the issue like this and burying it in lollipops, short skirts, and suggestive lyrics in catchy tunes.
So until I see a change in the fandoms, I am not returning to KPop. (and besides, all the bands who I consider real artists/singers/musicians/performers are gone at the moment).
We all at some point got into to KPop for the music. But all this image stuff is blinding us now. I love Korean artists because I think they have brilliant singers. But they used to care about quality, and the mainstream aspect of KPop is dying for me.
The fact that music is now tying in with the things that try to tear apart my feminist beliefs, doesn’t work well. So I must take my leave of the fandoms. How can I enjoy music like this?
Hiatus starts now. I have no time to get into all this drama with 2PM Jaebeom fans (no offense) and the DBSK lawsuit has carried on for too long – it makes me angry to see how ineffective SME has been with dealing with this, as well as with Super Junior.
Besides, I have school to concentrate on already. After all, we antis have lives.
WHAT SHOULD WE BE HATING?
WHAT SHOULD WE BE STANDING FOR?
Until then, keep anti-ing SNSD and be thoroughly against what they represent. Because they don’t represent us Asian females at all. They represent something far more sinister than some of us realize.
Farewell for now.
PS:
I also recommend checking out this blog. It helped motivate me to write this.
http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/